Posted by Deneb on March 4, 2006, at 23:04:35
In reply to Re: I'm sorry Dr. Bob, posted by Tamar on March 4, 2006, at 21:54:21
> Deneb,
>
> I’m sure it’s OK to love Dr Bob. I’m certain it doesn’t make him feel uncomfortable or unhappy.Really? That makes me happy then. :-)
>There are lots of questions you could ask yourself. For example:
> 1. Do you want Dr Bob as a lover or as a father figure, or perhaps both (or neither)?LOL, not as a lover! Most parsimonious explanation....father figure. LOL
> 2. If you could do just about anything, how would you express your love for Dr Bob?
I want to give Dr. Bob a hug. :-)
> 3. Do you feel that loving Dr Bob is a substitute for loving people in real life?
Not at all. I have limitless love. :-)
> 4. If you could substitute Dr Bob for one person in your real life, who would it be? Would you prefer to have Dr Bob instead of your father? Your uncle? A professor? A brother or cousin? What do you want most from him?
I think it would be super cool to have Dr. Bob as my professor, but I somehow think my loving him makes him more like a father.
What do I want most from him? I want him to tell me that he doesn't not like me, and doesn't want me hurt. He has actually told me those things. ;-) He's already given me all I want and need. Maybe that's why I love him so much.
> 5. If Dr Bob had flaws, what could you live with? What couldn’t you live with?
I could tolerate Dr. Bob not answering all my questions and forgetting about things. I wouldn't be able to tolerate him being greedy and selfish.
> Of course, my questions could be completely pointless. They’re based in my experience rather than in theory.
I think they were very good questions. :-)
>
> Nevertheless, I believe you’re completely normal. Don’t fret about your feelings. You’re in good company…
>
> Tamar
>Thanks Tamar :-) *gives Tamar big hug*
Deneb
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