Posted by littleone on March 7, 2006, at 20:40:44
In reply to Am I the only one?, posted by Larry Hoover on March 6, 2006, at 15:26:26
No, you're not alone. There are others. I'm sorry I haven't stood up with you and added my voice. I find conflict very difficult and try to avoid it at all costs.
Dr Bob, I know that Larry's posts have been rather passionate and emotional, but that doesn't mean that his request isn't reasonable. To be honest, I simply can't understand why you *wouldn't* implement it.
It's already something many of us do out of consideration of others. And when people don't put warnings on and you stumble across your trigger unexpectedly, well it just destroys you. I guess destroy is the wrong word because you do eventually get back up again, but that's what it feels like at the time. And getting back up again is so hard and emotional and draining and ... well it's just awful.
And all that can be avoided just by having a little warning.
Obviously it won't make you perfectly safe, you'll probably encounter your triggers in other places as well. But at least it gives you a better chance of being able to pick the time and place that you address your trigger issues. Instead of having it thrust upon you by someone who'll probably never know what hellhole they've just dropped you into.
I think just having one warning to cover everything is a bit redundant. So much stuff would be flagged that you'd probably end up reading it all anyway.
I think having descriptive flags are much better. I would suggest:
Suicide trigger
Self Injury trigger
Abuse trigger (includes sexual, physical, verbal, ritual abuse)
Violence trigger
Substance Abuse triggerI personally have other triggers, but I don't believe they would be common enough to warrent their own trigger warning.
I do think that people need to take responsibility for themselves and learn what triggers them in particular and learn ways to handle that. I don't think it is reasonable for Babble to protect everyone from everything. But by the same token, I do believe that the triggers I've listed above are common enough and harmful enough to warrent a warning system being in place.
And also, to be honest, your suggestion of leaving it up to other readers to flag triggering posts is kind of a kick in the guts. a) it's what happens now, Larry is asking for the warning system to be improved, and b) like Larry says, it's too late to flag a post once it's already dropped you into your hellhole.
I'm crawling back into my hole to hide now.
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