Posted by JenStar on August 28, 2005, at 20:39:49
In reply to Re: does it really? » Gabbix2, posted by alexandra_k on August 28, 2005, at 20:29:36
hi Alex,
I'm not personally turning against Deneb, and I don't think the site is a whole either. At least I hope not. :)I agree with what Nick said -- Deneb's future on the site depends on HER and her own choices about posting. (Just like MY future here depends on what I post.) Although we must have compassion as a group and as individuals, it's also everyone's responsibility to look at the needs of the group, the general triggers, and tailor their posts to match the mood. If one person continually posts things that just don't "go" here, they probably WILL end up engendering negative feelings towards them...
Some people are extremely sensitive to suicide, clearly, and it's important to recognize that and respect it here. Especially if the same pattern of posting is happening over and over again -- it's critical to break that cycle to maintain the respect and trust of the other people here.
I know you don't want to argue, and I don't want to either! I just wanted to say that I'm not "against" Deneb, but I'm still "for" personal responsibility. I think the two are not mutually exclusive.
thanks for reading!
JenStarPS - On a personal note, though, I don't think there is ANY comparison between Deneb and some of the blocked posters (Lou, So.) Although Deneb sometimes posts things that trouble others, she also posts lots of generous, kind, funny and informative posts. She genuinely interacts here. I never saw that from some previous posters. I don't think it's fair to even include her name in a sentence with their names!
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