Posted by Minnie-Haha on August 3, 2005, at 14:31:58
In reply to Re: The post was about BEHAVIOR... » Minnie-Haha, posted by alexandra_k on August 2, 2005, at 17:31:01
> You don't think the people who exhibit said behaviour will feel accused / put down that you choose to view their behaviour in that way???
Oh, no, no, no, no, no. I won't get sucked into another debate on when one can “legitimately” feel offended and when one is simply “choosing” to feel offended. (There are rounds of discussions on the subject in the archives.) I will say this: If others may “choose” to feel accused/put-down by my “behavior” then I may “choose” to feel accused/put-down by others' behaviors.
At any rate, if you wish to make your "choice" arguments again, you can do so without me. However, THAT DOES NOT MEAN that I concede any point you are trying to make, but only that I don't wish to thrash it out again. Finally, I respectfully ask that if you decide to quote me here or from other posts, that you not pull snippets, but rather give full quotes and direct readers to the original threads. IF that is impossible, THEN I would ask that you DO NOT POST to me -- or about me, if that is a permissable request -- anymore, as I often feel harassed by your posts.
> And that you would prefer to squelch their behaviour (ie have them change) rather than working on changing your interpretation (ie have the people who choose to feel offended own their own responses)???
My preference wasn’t only “to squelch” but “modify (if not squelch)…” You see, if others feel offended by a behavior – especially a behavior that has been ongoing for years and driven off other valued posters – then I should prefer that those choosing to engage in that behavior would modify it voluntarily. However, if they don’t, then I’d prefer that Administration modify the site’s rules. Here are some recent threads on the subject:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20050417/msgs/487910.html
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20050530/msgs/512087.html> It would seem to me that there are two options (though I should know better than to suggest that there are only two...)…
You’re right! :-)
> You could try to understand the pov whereby what you said wasn't acceptable and work on managing / expressing your own responses...
Oh, I think I do understand that POV! But I think that no matter how well I understand it, and no matter how carefully I express myself, I can “do no right,” so to speak, on this subject, which is important to me. Many here agree that this site’s acceptability rules are rather vague and that their execution is sometimes… well, let’s say imperfect.
> ... Or you could continue to bash your head up against a brick wall trying to convince other people that you are right where the likely consequence is another Babble holiday...
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> Your choice.Like I said three days ago, I don’t plan on being an active “Babbler” anymore. I just came here to make a few observations. And BTW: I felt put-down when I read your “You could try…” and “Or you could continue…” statements above.
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