Posted by alexandra_k on July 23, 2005, at 18:59:52
In reply to Re: Hmmm... I remember that. » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on July 23, 2005, at 18:52:43
> But some expectations are quite appropriate. I should hope that we would all have expectations of others that vary based on their role.
Oh yes, we can't do away with expectations altogether.
I am really just making this up as I go along...
But I would have thought that if one feels very intensely upset then that might indicate fairly strong idealisation. Because one is really upset because one feels really very let down.
But then... I guess it is hard to assess those expectations and see whether they are realistic or not.
How things are described has a lot to do with it.
How you describe your expectations.
But if you can come to a description that seems natural AND might be a little on the high side. Then if you adjust the expectation you might feel a lot better.If you can
If you can
Dunno about if you can't.
But thats what I try and do when I'm starting to get upset.
It's worked for me.
But I dunno.
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