Posted by alexandra_k on July 23, 2005, at 18:19:21
In reply to Re: gender differences » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on July 23, 2005, at 17:48:24
> No I don't nearly get as much as Dr. Bob because the roles are different. I reminded him of that above.
Yes.
> The difference would be in comparing Mark and I, not Dr. Bob and I.Yes, that seems fair. Though I think you post more actively than Mark.
>But the deputy role is so limited, that I don't think there's a chance to study it that well.
Yeah. Thats why I was interested in whether there might be a board out there moderated by a female...
> I'm not sure I agree though, that humans aren't pack animals like dogs. I certainly have seen the same behaviors. Dogs are just less subtle about it.Well, we are social animals like dogs are, yeah. But there are all sorts of other dissimilarities (pair bonds, care of infants etc) and a big enough difference in degree can amount to a difference in kind...
There are hierarchies sometimes. When the accountants required departments to rank peoples positions in order of importance, for example ;-)
>I'm quite certain that he has at least occasionally experienced the behavior commonly known as p*ssing contests with other males. And he is likely aware of the feelings associated with that behavior.Maybe its a little like the role triangle thingimie that we were talking about over on social. (I haven't checked the thread yet..) But there you have roles that it is only so easy to get caught up in. So when you start to get those feelings then that probably indicates that it is only too easy to slip into playing out one of those roles. Whether the situation arises due to transference or countertransference first. Well.. Who knows?
>He's probably also aware of protective feelings towards females and what that feels like. There is a difference in the internet, in that the attractiveness of the female isn't readily apparent. Only he can be aware of any feelings he has.
Yeah. But then he doesn't have to worry about getting thumped by someone either. And idealisation can result in conflict too when the person doesn't live up to the ideal and gets really mad...
> As far as not recognizing feminine aggression. Hmmm.... I'm not sure whether he does or not. But also, it may not fall within the civility guidelines as well, because it is usually not overtly uncivil. So even if he recognizes it, he may not act on it.So females might be better at expressing uncivil thoughts in a way that doesn't really breech the civility guidelines?
I think I've seen females lash out about as much as males (though maybe I'm wrong there). I just thought it might have more to do with feeling like one has been let down rather than feeling like one has to prove something...
But I think I'm just making this up as I go along...
I don't know how you would check.
Compare lots of case studies???
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