Posted by Minnie-Haha on April 26, 2005, at 11:29:51
In reply to Re: an answer, posted by Dr. Bob on April 26, 2005, at 0:46:48
> > That [habitually questioning whether or not others’ posts are civil] seems to me possibly like jumping to conclusions about others, or posting something that could lead others to feel accused or put down, or harassing others, or exaggerating or over-generalizing.
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> I don't see asking a question as jumping to a conclusion, exaggerating, or overgeneralizing...I agree with you about asking questions in general, but we're talking about a very particular kind of question/remark, posed habitually.
> I do know people sometimes don't feel supported by it...I wouldn't mind not feeling supported by it -- I don't feel everything here needs to support me -- but I do mind that it causes regular friction in an environment that's meant to be supportive.
> ... but I think there's some tension between administration and support. I can administrate better if people inform me about questionable posts...I agree, but this is a huge site with lots of posters. We *all* can and do inform you. And shouldn't reporting uncivil behavior be done mostly by those directly involved? First, by not jumping to conclusions by taking pieces of a post out of context; depending on the context, this could lead to exaggerating or over-generalizing the pieces' meanings. (In this very thread, one thing I wrote was taken out of context and the question raised that it might be anti-Semitic.) Second, perhaps by civilly asking the poster what he/she meant. And *third* by going to you, Dr. Bob, either through the Admin board or Babblemail.
> ... but that's inevitably somewhat accusatory.Especially if it's done behind your back and/or habitually.
> > 2. I like to come to the Admin board from time to time... But when I have to pick through dozens and dozens of someone's requests and reflections on whether or not my fellow Babblers are using civilized language, that stresses me out. It is rather hard to ignore such a flood of posts.
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> So for you, the cost of coming here may not outweigh the benefit.I hope it doesn't come to that! What I'm trying to do is find some compromise that will meet my needs -- and the needs of many others like me I think, from Babblemail I've received and past threads I've seen -- and those of posters who question civility rules habitually. As I asked in a previous post: Should one kind of disorder (need) trump another?
> Is it so hard to ignore posts on other boards?
Respectfully, yes. And I think it's hard for others, too. That’s why I started this thread. I feel harassed by this kind of behavior, whether it’s directed at me or my fellow posters.
> Bob
Thank you, Dr. Bob, for your answer, but will you please consider doing something about this? As a suggestion (and I'm open to others), if a person habitually questions or remarks on the civility of others' posts (especially posts that are not directed at or about that person) could you give him/her a warning? Then if the behavior is repeated, that person could be blocked. It would be up to you to decide what habitually means -- once a day, five times per week, whatever seems fair -- and how long to block.Thank you again for hearing my appeal.
Minnie
poster:Minnie-Haha
thread:487910
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