Posted by Minnie-Haha on April 23, 2005, at 20:35:50
In reply to Re: OK, I’m going to try this again, posted by Dr. Bob on April 23, 2005, at 18:40:48
> > Does habitually questioning whether or not others’ posts are civil break any of these guidelines? Might this possibly even be considered troll-like behavior?
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> > I think Campbell’s advice to ignore a troll is often the best advice.
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> So try to ignore that behavior?I'll defer to your advice for now, but can I please, most respectfully, get an answer to my question? PB civility rules remind us (among other things) not to be sarcastic, not to jump to conclusions about others, not to post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down, not to harass or pressure others, or use language that could offend others, and not to exaggerate or over-generalize. I've tried to present my case as politely as I can. My question is: Is there any way that habitually questioning whether or not others’ posts are civil breaks any of the civility guidelines?
> > ... I am sincerely trying to address an issue that is stressful to me.
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> What about it is stressful to you? Sharing something about your own issues and their possible role in your reaction might be an interesting exercise and might help others to respond...I thought I'd done that in previous posts, but OK.
1. One of my own posts was scrutinized in February by someone who had not contributed to the thread it was on in about 18 months. And I wasn't asked, on that thread, to explain what I meant by the figure of speech I used, but rather my post was brought up before the Admin board, questioning whether it broke any civility rules. (This person offered one of several meanings for the term I used as proof that it might be offensive.) I've noticed that this has also been done to many other Babblers' posts. That seems to me possibly like jumping to conclusions about others, or posting something that could lead others to feel accused or put down, or harassing others, or exaggerating or over-generalizing.
2. I like to come to the Admin board from time to time to see what others are discussing about what they like about the board (or dislike), or offering suggestions, etc. But when I have to pick through dozens and dozens of someone's requests and reflections on whether or not my fellow Babblers are using civilized language, that stresses me out. It is rather hard to ignore such a flood of posts.
3. Uncivil behavior stresses me out. I can forgive the occasional slip-up (I've done it myself), but when it's repeated over and over again, I find that stressful. And I don't think it matters how nice the person doing it is or *why* the behavior is repeated. If after the first warning it's repeated, it seems to me like willfully breaking the rules. What I have described seems to me like uncivil behavior. I just wanted to know if anyone else (especially you) thinks what I'm talking about is uncivil.
poster:Minnie-Haha
thread:487910
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20050417/msgs/488504.html