Posted by Gabbix2 on February 7, 2005, at 22:31:18
In reply to Re: Rules » Toph, posted by alexandra_k on February 7, 2005, at 22:08:28
> Ah, but it is amazing what you can do with bobspeak... really... it isn't such a bad skill to get good at :-)
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> I have trouble getting the hang of it sometimes...Yes it is good, but as oh gosh who was it...
Forgive me poster I can't remember your name saidRules are adhered to by fools but
Guidelines for the wise.
I'm not sure *that's* exactly right.I do appreciate that Bob has seemingly been more lenient about how firmly one sticks to his phrasing rules for civilty, (however even that can be disconcerting in case he becomes strict again without warning) At one time though he would block someone for the most minute misstep
and I don't think that's the spirit of I stament rules. Just as etiquette is actually only proper etiquette when people feel comfortable not when they feel intimidated, so it should be with civility language rules.
I don't believe someone should be blocked for accidentally saying "I find that offensive" rather than "I was offended by that" and yet it happens. I believe that no one should be blocked for saying a racist statement is offensive, but that happens too. And sometimes an insult is an insult.. it's happened here, and we should be able to call it what it is, and say I think that was insulting to "so and so" Not "If I were so and so I think I would feel insulted"
There is no theory that has stood the test of time that hasn't made allowences for our humanness. I believe owning your feelings is a good thing, but the theory behind it shouldn't be used as a bat to club people with or it's purpose is defeated.
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