Posted by Dinah on February 16, 2004, at 10:12:06
In reply to Re: please rephrase that » gabbix2, posted by Dr. Bob on February 16, 2004, at 9:27:21
Dr. Bob, wouild it be adequate if Gabbi said "I received an email and was terribly frightened and horrified when I opened it." and Dr. Bob didn't like the way I phrased it on board.
That would be an "I" statement.
Or that she received an email, left out the descriptive phrases entirely, and related the gist of the email?
"I received an email from someone here that said I should have been xxxxx" or "I received an email that said I deserved xxxxx" for example? And Dr. Bob didn't like the words I used to describe the email.
That would have no descriptions in it at all.
It's a fine line, and perhaps Gabbi would find it easier to rephrase if you gave her some examples. A bit more work for you in the short term, but a heck of a lot less bother for you in the long term, as I believe time has proved. Not talking about Gabbi here, but in general.
Remember, we're none of us trained in these things. And even if we'd like to comply, it's sometimes difficult to figure out how to do it in a way that you find acceptable. Posting the link in the FAQ is great, but sometimes that's hard to apply to particular situations.
Even if you give someone a hand by giving them ways of saying something, if they say what you ask them to, I think you can assume that they are trying. Unless maybe you find yourself having to do it with the same person weekly or something.
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