Posted by gabbix2 on February 13, 2004, at 22:01:46
In reply to Re: Is this community making you mentally healthier? » Phil, posted by Sooshi on February 13, 2004, at 20:35:15
I don't think anything will change but I can't
stay silent. I think however it will be the last thing I say on the subject as just being here makes me anxious.
I've met some incredible people here, and for that I will be forever grateful. I also met some incredible people at school, but I don't feel the principal can do know wrong.. nor do I feel forever indebted to the school for it was the people themselves who made my life better.I wouldn't ever want a support group that did not have civility guidelines, or blocks. I've been to unmoderated sites and they made my stomach turn.
However the person who is implimenting the 'punishment' has got to be consistant, and seem to understand the effect of applying it.
Being a "visionary" is one thing, but how many people have to be crushed in order to complete this "vision?"
Am I being dramatic? I don't think so.
Look at the effect VOLUNTARILY leaving has had
on two of our members recently, and they have the choice to return.It is certainly no less a sense of loss for someone to be forced to leave, especially when it is added to the frustration of knowing that another poster at another time could have gotten away with the same thing.
I cringe every time I see someone
get away with saying the word s*it, when someone else gets nailed for it especially when for some people that one slip can mean a 6 month "Vacation"What happened to Zen was wrong plain and simple.
Clayton getting blocked for a week for calling
Effexor evil was wrong. There is a whole thread going right now people are calling Effexor evil and nothing is being said.. what happened?
Did the rules change again? If they've changed why didn't someone say something?I got blocked for 9 weeks calling an email from someone here abusive and threatening.. for petes sake it referred in detail to how someone should have been an abortion, among other things.
Was I trying to start trouble..NO! I was trying to vouch for someone who was claiming to have recieved similar emails and who was being called a liar.
Anyone who is studying online communities
as is being done here, should be well aware of the damage done when someone is forced out, especially when the enforcement of the rules is inconsistant and the action precipitating the punishiment is not one of cruelty.If consistancy and fairness is not seen as a priority-(and it's certainly a noble and achievable goal) then in my opinion a crucial part of the circuit just isn't connecting.
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