Posted by tabitha on December 15, 2003, at 19:06:12
In reply to Re: grumbling and obligatory thinking, posted by Dr. Bob on December 15, 2003, at 8:36:39
For goodness sake, Bob, at the very very best it was a tough love post. He listed about a dozen of Dinah's supposed flaws, then at the end said this 'What you are reluctant to accept is that you've always been "enough"... ' which I read as a sort of back-handed compliment. Where did he get the idea that Dinah doesn't think she's enough, or that she's relucant to accept it? It had nothing to do with her original post. Pure speculation and does not sound supportive to me.
You've PBC'd tough love posts before that contained much less naming of the other person's supposed problems, but you let this one by. Look at the context, Dinah was trying to fill in some missing bits of memory of a traumatic experience, and that post suggested her memory was delusional. Delusional. What could be more unsupportive than that?
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