Posted by lil' jimi on November 20, 2003, at 20:37:41
In reply to Re: nature of existence » lil' jimi, posted by Dinah on November 20, 2003, at 17:48:46
hi Dinah,
you wrote:
> I'm sorry my attempt to help just made things worse. It wasn't my intent. But my attempts to help often make things worse. My therapist says I need to stop trying.
>well, now, _of course_ it wasn't your intent! ... that was never in any real doubt at all ... ... which was why i wanted to wait to let myself cool off ... ... i knew you were concerned for my feelings ... as well as i knew that it was an issue of the condition of my feelings about these events Than anything to do with you .... .... i dare say i was so primed by the precursors that it may well have been impossible to not appear to have "made things worse" .... and my explanation was intended to emphasize that it was me, not you ...
> But really, to say I sound like Dr. Bob? I believe I may be mortally offended.
>... "mortally"!
.... like, "Yikes!!"... for just that one phrase, for just that moment you sounded _like_ dr. b ... but in immediate relief of you sounding like you ... it was just a passing shadow which you quickly outshined ... ... ... you don't sound like dr. b ... honest!
... ... ... i'd be offended too ... ... another thing i should have left unsaid ... ... sorry> I've always liked the garbage can lid analogy, and find reason to use it often (unfortunately). I tip my hat to Bill Cosby and/or his writers.
.... .... and i can thank you for your resourcefulness ... thank you ...
.... .... you see, i feel as if i've been fed some of the garbage can lid along with some garbage, when we dressed the wolf on sheep's clothing and let her loose among the flock, like .... you know?
... ... ... that's where i get mortally offended ....... .... but none of that was your intention ... ...
... what's an "I-Statement"?
... i went to college ... i never heard of an "I-Statement" ... ... what's it supposed to prove?_was_ dr b's apology an i-statement, anyway?
take care and please don't be Mortally offended,
~ jim
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