Posted by Dinah on November 7, 2003, at 15:05:28
In reply to Re: Specific questions » Dr. Bob, posted by lil' jimi on November 7, 2003, at 14:28:23
Hi Jim.
I'm sorry you're feeling so disturbed by this. :( I wish I could say something to make you feel better. But the truth is that that possibility is something that we all have to deal with on the internet. That people might not be who they say, or they may be deceiving us, or playing with us. That's just an unpleasant fact.
I've been grappling with this ever since I got to this board, and it's something my therapist keeps in mind even more than I do. He's always warning me to remember that people might not be who they say, as well as the reminders about the limitations of this form of interaction.
I've seen some improvements on this site since I came here. Dr. Bob began discouraging people first from posting as two people at once, and now he's also discouraging name changes without notification. I think he realizes that his actions were unwise, and won't make the same mistake twice. He's apologized. And I suspect that that is all he *can* do, even if he wants to do more.
I wish this place were completely safe. I'm guessing Dr. Bob wishes this place were completely safe. But it's not. Other posters might misrepresent themselves. People from our real lives might read our posts. It's always appropriate to be careful with our thoughts and how far we extend ourselves on this sort of forum.
I wish I could say it was different.
I miss your voice on the boards. I hope you can find it in yourself to accept the possibility that you will be deceived, knowing that if you are, it's nothing for *you* to be ashamed of.
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