Posted by noa on April 8, 2003, at 22:58:45
In reply to Lou's response to noa's post-LR-8c-d » noa, posted by Lou Pilder on April 8, 2003, at 22:22:08
I can't say what the motivation is, but it certainly seems like a hostile comment. True, it could be that it is somehow out of context, and if so, one clarification question might be able to clear it up.
But once I got a sense of whether i thought the comment was intentionally hostile or totally a mistake, I think I wouldn't press for clarification any more. First of all, if a person isn't going to respond to one clarification request, they seem unlikely to respond to subsequent ones. Second, if it was totally inadvertant, they would like tell you so.
Also, if I determined that the hostile remark was intentional, I would probably not want to be continuing to converse with the person who is hostil toward me. If it was a misunderstanding, I think I'd probably get a response right away if I stated something like,
"Did you mean to imply that I am a trouble maker with emotional problems? First of all, It wouldn't be unique to have emotional problems here--that is what this board is about. but secondly, if you are implying that disagreeing with Dr. Bob's rules means that I'm an emotionally disturbed troublemaker, I don't agree with that and I am hurt and offended by that."
But I wouldn't want to continue a back and forth of hostile posts. I would want to drop it and move on. And, if the person didn't answer me, so be it. It might be hard, but it would be time to let go of that one.
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