Posted by shar on April 6, 2003, at 21:55:15
In reply to Re: alternatives and a last resort, posted by Dr. Bob on April 6, 2003, at 11:13:37
ok, I have to admit I got pretty mixed up with the A's and B's, but I think the idea is sound. It seems reasonable that someone could make a civil request not to hear from someone. And, that someone could respond on the board if they had other things to say.
If I ask Sweet Sue (not a real person that I know of) not to respond to me--direct a post to me specifically--then Sweet Sue could address the topic at hand if she wanted, stating her own opinion using "I" statements and all that good communication stuff. She just wouldn't be pointing directly at me. I have no doubt that she could do so indirectly, this is a pretty sharp crew here.
If I changed my mind, and said I'm sorry to Sweet Sue, and wanted to discuss things after all, I always have that option. And, I guess I feel Sweet Sue should have the option to post a "hey, Shar, wanna talk?" post if she later stopped hating me. (tongue firmly in cheek)
Or, things could just be left the way they are, and people could learn to just ignore the known posts and/or posters that cause them problems. There are several posters that I don't read at all, and don't respond to, even though I may read and respond to other posters in that thread.
All this A and B and Sweet Sue and Posters and Posting and Responders and Threads is making me dizzy.
Shar
> > Perhaps there is some way here to start a meaningful dialogue about hurt and frustration and communication... it seems to me that there is a core of truth here that we're all bypassing. A common ground that can be reached if we could just get past the misunderstandings on all sides.
> >
> > Perhaps we can all try to think of some alternatives?
> >
> > Dinah
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> Some creative alternatives would be great, thanks for suggesting that.
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> > It really just amounts to harassment, IMO.
> >
> > shar
>
> OTOH, that might be one way to approach it, too... We could say A is considered to harass B if A directs uninvited and unwelcome posts to B. "Uninvited" means not in response to posts directed by B to A. "Unwelcome" means B has already asked A not to direct posts to him or her.
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> A could still reply to posts by B as long as those replies weren't directed back specifically to B. The request by B not to have posts directed to him or her should of course be civil.
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> If you request that someone not direct posts to you, please save that URL. Then if they do, let me know the URLs of your post to them as well as theirs to you.
>
> How about that? I'd rather lines of communication stayed open, but if someone doesn't want that -- and there aren't any alternatives -- maybe it would help to have a policy like this as a last resort.
>
> Bob
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