Posted by ~alii~ on February 21, 2003, at 15:06:18
In reply to THANK YOU for saying it and nicely too » ArthurGibson, posted by IsoM on February 21, 2003, at 14:43:12
A hearty thanks to IsoM and Arthur Gibson for their views.
~Alii
> I feel so strongly about this. I’m glad Arthur spoke up. I get upset that any one who criticizes Bob's policies is viewed as subversive. We're too often thought of as trying to break up something that (in their opinion) is working perfectly fine. Any dissident voices are thought of as somehow wrong or evil - out to get the "nice Dr, Bob". We’re thought of as somehow “unsafe”,
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> I wish others could see that those who disagree with Bob's policies aren’t a bunch of left-wing wackos. We're very normal, nice, loving, helpful people too. We WANT these boards to work to the benefit of all - not just those who don’t complain or speak up about what they perceive as injustices. We don’t all have to agree all the time on issues to get along, do we? And those of us who do speak up aren’t “out to get” the rest of you. Because you don’t see a problem doesn’t mean there is none.
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> Many view the Psycho-Babble community as a big family - one they can turn to in times of difficulty for acceptance and reassurance. But in any family there’s bound to be some friction - even in the most loving and stable of families. But it’s talked out so each can understand the others better and it’s made stronger by doing so. By squelching any signs of friction, the opportunity to grow and learn is taken from us. How can we learn how to get along if every little misdemeanour gets someone sent away for a week or more? How can the problem get talked out?
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> I think the need for moderation and reproofs are needed, especially when someone is purposely unkind and vulgar. But blocks are being handed out for far too flimsy a pretence in most cases. And if we try to reason with Bob about it, we get the stock answer - “it’s my board so you’ll have to let me decide what’s best”. While that may be true, why can’t Bob REALLY listen to our ideas (some of them are excellent) and incorporate some of them into his policies. And I don’t just mean some of the window dressing that’s been done either. Give this community a chance to grow and please stop treating us all like little children who don’t know what’s good for us. We’re NOT out for each other’s throat.
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