Posted by Dinah on September 17, 2002, at 20:56:07
In reply to Re: you're missing the point entirely:Wendy Alii, posted by Phil on September 17, 2002, at 20:13:25
I had written a post earlier and decided not to hit submit in a combination of just not feeling well and a sense of unease about posting when I didn't have a history with abuse.
But basically what I wanted to say was that I sensed the sincere goodwill behind your post to trouble, and I hadn't considered it uncivil, taken in it's entirety. It might have been better to have worded your last sentence, as Wendy suggested "I hope you can get over this", but the rest of the post was full of what seemed to me to be genuine concern and empathy, expressed in your customary direct way. And since trouble has posted one or two times to me similarly direct posts with sincere goodwill, I rather thought she would appreciate your directness as well. Of course, I can't speak for trouble, but that was my impression.
Certainly I detected no cooing understanding or pity (and have a hard time picturing you expressing cooing understanding).
On the other hand, I do care about trouble, and my good wishes on her marriage were sincere. It was nice to hear her describe herself as giddy.
poster:Dinah
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