Posted by beardedlady on July 23, 2002, at 7:48:13
In reply to Re: i try to keep my emotions out of the way, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 21:56:59
> Guilt was put in mankind for a purpose, to let us know when we have done something worthy of regret.
That's one way to look at it, but what if it's a bad purpose? I bet most therapists will tell you that guilt is actually unhealthy and counterproductive. Guilt is usually imposed on us by others who don't like us or our actions, and it's manipulative. I have rarely felt guilty. When I say something that might have come out wrong, I apologize and explain, but I don't feel guilty or have regrets.
A lack of self-confidence can make one more susceptible to feeling guilty AND to making others feel guilty.
> Well, maybe it just suggests that the person has a well developed conscience.
I would say we do the right thing initially because we have a conscience.
I know lots of people who often feel guilt and often have regrets. I also know a lot who rarely feel guilt and who rarely have regrets. It's just what makes you you. I believe KK when she says she has few. I don't have many either.
beardy
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