Posted by kiddo on July 22, 2002, at 0:57:37
In reply to Re: support..., posted by Dr. Bob on July 22, 2002, at 0:25:50
> Sorry I haven't been around, this sure blew up...
Yes, it sure has......
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> Sometimes the goals of these boards conflict. One goal is of course that they be supportive. Another is that people feel free to post, since how else are they going to be supported? But being supportive takes precedence. My approach to civility is, it doesn't matter if someone really believes something -- or to some extent even if it's true -- if it's uncivil, they shouldn't post it. It's a tradeoff, that person can't vent or receive support themselves (at least not here), but the overall atmosphere is (IMO) more supportive for others. "The good of the many outweighs the good of the few":
>I haven't been uncivil....your post was being supportive....I wasn't necessarily supportive in the fact that I posted what I believe, but I was civil about it....so in other words, forget what I believe, because it doesn't matter? That bothers me for the fact that you only seem to see one side of things.....
> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20020308/msgs/3793.html
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> It's the same idea regarding matters of faith. Someone may really believe someone else will be damned, but it keeps the overall atmosphere more supportive not to post that. Jane maybe said this better:Fine
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> > I think that when you say "You are wrong" people have this compulsion to reply "No I'm not. You are." And it goes back and forth, with each round getting angrier, until no one can talk to each other about anything.
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> > I think we all believe our own version of the truth is correct. I'm as rigid as anyone else in that respect. We've set up a society that says it is better to at least give lip service to other peoples rights to their own beliefs than to constantly be at war over it. And we've got a board here which takes a similar stand. I think that's a good thing. It lets people avoid getting so angry at each other over one issue that they can't speak to each other about anything at all.
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> > Jane
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> > imo the original PBC got turned into something it is not, and that most of the discussion does not center around the point of the PBC.
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> > Shar
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> I agree.
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> > > I am saying, like Dr. Bob was cautioning Kiddo, that the total thought that Kiddo was presenting could be construed as anti-Semitic rhetoric.
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> > PLEASE TELL ME WHERE DR. BOB SAID THIS??????? ASKING ME TO BE SUPPORTIVE, AND SAYING THERE IS ONLY ONE ROAD IS A LOT DIFFERENT THAN TELLING ME WHAT I'M SAYING IS ANTI-SEMITIC RHETORIC.
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> > Kiddo
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> I was just saying what I said. I didn't think what you said was anti-Semitic. But I do think that beliefs that there's only one "right" road can (but don't necessarily) lead to "anti" feelings towards others -- and not just Jews.
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> Bob
I'm sorry that my belief causes you to feel that way....don't worry, it won't happen again, I won't post my beliefs here anymore.
Kiddo
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