Posted by beardedlady on July 20, 2002, at 14:30:10
In reply to Re: I believe Dr. Bob is away » kiddo, posted by Dinah on July 20, 2002, at 13:50:45
> I don't really see this as a game. I see it as a rotten shame. With the biggest casualties coming from those of us who detest conflict.
How much could you detest it, Dinah, when you seem to put yourself right in the middle of it every time? Someone says something about Lou, and you post how bad you feel about it. Someone says something about Dr. Bob, and you post how bad you feel about it. Peace is not made by racing back and forth to support every side of an argument. Peace is made through compromise and hard work.
> Various posts lately have sounded like people have been sitting around at some location or other working themselves up into a frenzy of self righteous Bob-bashing. And using the same words over and over, as if they'd just attended a meeting of Recovery, Inc. and memorized the handbook.
I think this is a horrible thing to say. I really do.
I have marched on Washington in protest over nuclear weapons, and I have been part of candlelight vigils for peace--as long ago as 1982 and as recently as last spring. I have heard the "America: Love it or Leave it" slogan so many times from people who don't understand how much we treasure our American identities. But just because you live in the best place in the world doesn't mean you shouldn't always strive to make it better. Everything, everyone, can improve.
And just because Psycho Babble happens to be the best board with some super people here, it doesn't mean that some of those people can't or shouldn't work to make it better.
Yes, sometimes that means conflict. Rather than making peace with everyone, you contribute to that conflict. And that's okay! It's perfectly okay to be involved in a debate! But it's not okay to claim yourself a casualty of that debate, while disregarding the feelings of those who would like to improve this site.
Iso, Zo, Wendy, KK, and I are not sitting around by the campfire with our laptops, toasting marshmallows and waiting to pounce on Dr. Bob or Lou or you or anyone else. But we do lurk, as is our right. And we do pop in now and again when we have something to say or to support those who seem to be treated unfairly here.
The conflicts are happening in our absence, not because of us.
beardy
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