Posted by krazy kat on June 25, 2002, at 10:43:47
In reply to Suggestion, posted by mist on June 24, 2002, at 23:27:40
It is Very difficult for me not to have specified rules. I have learned to deal with it better than I used to, but never knowing if one is going to get a PBC is very stressful, imho.
It may seem trivial to some, but I would guess that I am not alone re: that a PBC at times is very bad for my ego when I thought I was writing well within Dr. Bob's boundaries. I really try to fit here and work on my tone and the way I present opinions. And then more intangible and unstructured rules are added. Think of good parenting:
You have a teenager. You tell them they have a curfew and that it's between 9:00 pm and midnight. Now, being a teenager, that kid is going to stay out until midnight. The first night you don't say anything. On the second you kind of imply they've overstepped the boundaries with a light slap on the wrist. Then, on the third night, you light into them and ground them (block them). (What was that kid doing going out everynight, anyway? ;)
IsoM's suggestion is the most sensible, imho. AND, Dr. Bob needs to do a list or an easier reference for what words are never allowed. A sick person is not going to use the dictionary to edit their posts.
Mist's suggestion is great, but it seems it's more complex.
And, remember the reason this thread started was that the poster, omega man, used the words "serious shit" in his message subject line to describe how difficult the previous poster's experience was.
I'm done, tired, and spending too long here again.
- kk
poster:krazy kat
thread:5720
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20020510/msgs/5785.html