Posted by Dr. Bob on June 23, 2002, at 0:56:23
In reply to Re: I still don't understand the rule, either » Dr. Bob, posted by wendy b. on June 22, 2002, at 21:56:21
> I think that this is just silly. Your calling me unsupportive, of a concept, not a person (read the thread again), is really off-base.
Here's what you said again:
> > if people can't deal with the word shit, they should reassess their tolerance levels.
I took that as not so supportive of people would can't deal with the word. Are you saying it's just unsupportive of the concept of not being able to deal with the word? Or of a group of people rather than a particular person?
> Loads of people would tell you that I am at least as supportive of others as anybody else, in real life and on this Board... I am trying hard not to take your remarks as a put-down.
I was referring *only* to that one statement. I didn't mean anything more than that, I apologize if I came across that way.
> It takes a lot to offend me. Because I am SO TOLERANT, I guess. I wish you could be tolerant, too, of reasonable expression.
OK, it takes a lot to offend you. In fact, I think it takes a lot to offend me, too. The thing is, it's not just us two here.
> I really can't understand why you are actively choosing to stifle expression. The books of creative literature you're reading on the Book Club forum are written by authors who use those awful "bad" words judiciously. Not all the time, but not never, either.
I'm choosing to stifle certain forms of expression because I want people to feel welcome here. Those books have a different goal than this site.
> And does the fact that I don't happen to agree with someone (like you, in this rare instance) mean that I'm not being supportive of him? This is something I don't get either.
I suppose in a way it's not supportive, but the other main goal is education, so different points of view are fine, and in fact encouraged.
> And I know I can take my bad words and use somebody else's web site. But I'd rather be able to express myself (within reason) without censoring myself
Expressing oneself within reason means sometimes censoring oneself.
> What about Dreamer's sex-escapades?* Isn't that as offensive as swearing? Why don't you censor discussions of/about sex, like the one we had about "Good Sex for Moms, " and women who were having a hard time getting turned on? We got pretty graphic, of necessity. The differences seem to be a little tricky to discern.
The difference there is between *topics* that might offend others and *language* that might.
Bob
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