Posted by Zo on June 7, 2002, at 0:36:46
In reply to Re: overdose and confusion, posted by Dr. Bob on June 6, 2002, at 1:07:21
> I wanted to know EVERYONE. Now it is about a month later and the board makes me feel much less close and very fragmented.
>
> Sorry. Maybe with time you'll get more used to the new arrangement? Especially if you feel better in general?
>Dear Bob,
It looks like valued old-timers are are saying, Bob, "I feel *worse* with all these new boards.The site is both harder to use and less the close community it was - and this is a big, important loss to me."
And it looks like you are saying, "Sorry, but this not going to change, so *you* need to adjust."
Am I anywhere near correct?
My thought is that it would be much more supportive, in the long run, to really be clear about the changes you make.
Speaking for myself, I'm not comfortable with things that are implied, and I have to find out---especially when there's not going to *be* any dialogue.
It may be okay or not okay with people , if you make unilateral decisions about Babble. But don't you think it might work better, spare lots of feelings, if this were openly stated?
It's nice to have threads with you, but it seems pretty pointless for members to post questions just to find out what is your current thinking. Seems more efficient to be clear? And perhaps smooths feelings?
Expectations (that feedback on a given issue matters) without information (the issue has already been decided) tends to lead to disappointment and bad feeling, don't you think?
And maybe people even feel a bit disrespected, like if it's a big loss, to them. . .."Sorry."
Maybe it's hard for you, as an able person, to imagine how important even small changes are, here, to us?
Maybe we don't have much other place to feel at home with friends, in our life . . .But somebody else owns this house. . Invited us here. . . but the house rules are all to make it easier for him?. . .. .. You can see where this might be difficult. . to people already in plenty of pain.
Zo
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