Posted by JohnX2 on April 20, 2002, at 16:02:33
In reply to Re: general comment, posted by shar on April 20, 2002, at 12:47:51
> If we could learn to "own" our feelings here (sort of the "I feel this when you say that") kind of thing, it would be of great personal benefit to us, and make it safer for others. Also, if we could learn to accept differences--in thoughts, opinions, etc.--as just that, a difference, we would be much sturdier people IMO.
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> We often run from differences, or see them as threatening...I think because we feel that we are "wrong" if someone disagrees, or that we "must" change how we feel if others disagree. But, that is not the case. It is the truer nature of the world that everyone who wants to can keep their "spot" (not have to change) in the face of disagreement, or even ridicule, or harassment. However, we've usually been taught dozens of reasons and expectations that this shouldn't happen, so people "defend" their beliefs from attack by others.
>These are really good points to think about.
> So, for PSB it means we don't get the full measure of what people think and believe and feel. Too bad for us, IMO.
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> SharArghh.
Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts.
John
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