Posted by shar on January 29, 2001, at 0:16:57
In reply to Re: being civil, posted by Dr. Bob on January 28, 2001, at 16:23:28
What I find in Name's posts does not exemplify support for this site, although the writing is lengthy, quasi-academic, and multisyllabic enough to thinly veil the continuous criticism of the site and its posters, particularly with respect to how it could be improved in hypothetical circumstances.
It is hard for me to read Name's posts and consider them civil, simply because the approach is more toney than someone who comes right out and says "grow up" or "shut up" (for example). Name hypothesized that posters (Vesper) might have a pathological reason for posting here. That posters viciously attacked the spouse of another poster. Name described the support some people gave as pollyanna support (or something to that effect).
I'm afraid I don't find that much more civil than some others who have been chastised. Overall, I find the tone of Name's posts to be extremely negative and nonsupportive of the site and its posters' behaviors, and an underlying theme of disdain (or maybe arrogance, or maybe both) toward anyone who responds to Name's posts, IMHO.
I suppose it is all in the way you want to define civility.
True, Name does not stamp his or her little foot (which might IMHO actually be more genuine), but Name does indeed go on and on and on (and on) about the faults inherent in this site and quite freely uses examples of posters on this site who display the "faults."
However, it is and always has been your call, doc. I don't always agree with you and do not envy your responsibility!.... :-)
Shar
> > Dr Bob... why do you feel unable to also ask Name to be civil?? I am getting increasingly annoyed by his posts (and sorry, I just feel this need to read them!!). he just seems to want to argue. What ever is said he is going to reply with a post that argues that view point.
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> Well, it's possible to argue in a civil way. Being civil is about how someone interacts, not what they think. And it's good to hear different points of view. But if there's something specific you think I've missed, let me know, and I'll take another look.
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> Also, you may feel a need to read those posts, but of course you don't really need to... :-)
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> Bob
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