Posted by baseball55 on January 7, 2013, at 19:47:20
In reply to Re: Why?, posted by ChicagoKat on January 7, 2013, at 16:26:04
> Thanks baseball, your words are very wise. The only thing that really gets me is what your husband said to you. That must have hurt. But, having said that, I would not be surprised if my husband felt the same way, though I doubt he will ever say it. Damn! If only we could get better.
> KatMy husband's words hurt at the time, but I also knew, after years together, that what comes in his head tends to come out of his mouth. He vents and gets over it. But we recently talked about this -- about how completely unsupportive he was when my depression was severe. And he told me he was constantly plotting ways to kill me without getting caught. Even my daughter, with whom I had a very close and loving relationship, became estranged and when I tried to get her to talk to me -- this was after I was getting better -- she cried and got angry and said that she had a mother who twice tried to kill herself and could not bear being around me, it made her feel too destabilized.
I know (as in later post) that people with depression sometimes feel -- why do people with cancer (asthma, heart conditions, etc) get sympathy, while people with depression get anger and withdrawal? I think it is because cancer or heart disease doesn't change your personality. You are still you. The relationships you have are still the same relationships. This is not true when you suffer from mental illness.
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