Posted by alchemy on January 6, 2013, at 22:52:10
In reply to Re: Why? » ChicagoKat, posted by Hugh on January 6, 2013, at 19:11:36
For some, that may seem extreme and unfair statement. My mom says she remembers me saying that I wish I had cancer instead. She has also heard another friend say it.
I am in no way discounting how bad cancer can be. I took care of my dad while he died of cancer. I wish I could have taken it from him, to relieve both of our sufferings. I was actually the one in the family that spent the most time nursing him because I understood pain. I had a harder time seeing him in pain than when he died.
How sad is it that at a cancer walk there are hundreds that show up, and at the NAMI walk I went to there were less than 100 probably. And even more so - that I was actually a little embarrassed to be there!
I am still learning my limits on reaching for friends and family for someone to at least listen. Their withdrawal or annoyance only makes it worse. But I get so desperate for someone to even talk to. The words "help me" are in my head, even though I know they can't.
Yet if I had cancer, or some other acceptable disease, the empathy would be pouring in and I would be heroic.
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