Posted by Twinleaf on January 6, 2013, at 12:12:59
In reply to Why?, posted by ChicagoKat on January 6, 2013, at 11:47:23
People do fail to be adequately empathic - a lot. But don't you think it is almost always because they are pre-occupied with losses, stresses, painful situations of their own? Or your stepmother may have felt overwhelmed by the terrible thing that happened to you, and just wasn't able to be responsive.
It certainly hurts to seek support and understanding, and not get it. But I think the cause is almost always emotional pre-occupations or limitations in the other person, rather than a true lack of warmth or caring. The one thing it NEVER means is that you are not worth caring about, even though it can feel like it.
That is probably the best thing about Babble - that there is genuine caring and understanding here. I would personally like to see it monitored in such a way that occasional very harmful remarks, such as the one that just happened to you, would be better controlled. Not excessive monitoring over tiny things, as we had before, but just basic common- sense monitoring over the important things. I do wish Dr. Bob would consider this.
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