Posted by Dinah on October 21, 2012, at 1:02:41
In reply to Re: Choices... » Twinleaf, posted by phillipa on October 20, 2012, at 10:09:29
Phillipa, I feel the same way about most docs. One of my doctors lately told me that if I needed to decide if I trusted her, because she could only work with me if I trusted her. She was right. I didn't trust her. She had answered some questions about some medications that were shortly after yanked off the market in such a way that I realized I knew more than she did about where they stood with the FDA.
Now I've got a doctor I trust. He proved his competence to me by knowing far more than I did, and catching something all my other doctors had missed. Still, if he suggested a new med, I'd check it out. I would hope he'd be pleased that I would do that.
I think what people are saying is that if you don't have a doctor you can trust, you owe it to yourself to find a new one. You need to keep looking. Because the doctor I quit was right. If I couldn't trust her, she really couldn't help me. I'm glad I moved on.
But I know that there is no change before its time. When you're ready to make changes, you will. Not all the encouragement in the world will make you make those changes a minute before that. What it might do is help you keep those possibilities in mind. I always joke with my therapist that I rejected everything he said for the first few hundred times he said it. But eventually it sinks in, and may even become something I think of as my own idea. Had he pushed, I wouldn't have changed any faster. Had he given up, I might not have changed at all.
Fortunately he usually wasn't so invested that my changing was more important to him than it was to me. And fortunately, I was never shy of telling him when he forgot.
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