Posted by morgan miller on October 24, 2010, at 20:28:23
In reply to Re: I am sad and appalled, posted by Dinah on October 24, 2010, at 20:19:05
> > I guess I should say the gloves shouldn't be "totally off" as I wouldn't want someone to be cursed at and called horrible names but to tell someone they are a pain wouldn't bother me.
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> It wouldn't bother me overmuch either to tell someone they're a pain. After all, I'd be perfectly justified right? Just telling the truth?
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> People generally don't enjoy the experience of being called a pain nearly as much. And have a different view of whether it's justified.
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> In my opinion, it's not difficult to disagree on Babble and stay civil. It doesn't take a huge vocabulary or a facility with words. My son's preschool class was pretty good with it.
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> It just takes a decision that no matter how others behave, you will choose to respond civilly. It doesn't mean not disagreeing. It doesn't mean being kissyface nice. It just means that you make a choice.
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> You don't have to make that choice. There are other choices that can be made. But (at least when Dr. Bob is around) those choices have a cost.I don't know Dinah, I've seen a few circumstances where it appeared the person was being civil, but because that criticized or expressed frustration, they were warned or blocked. A while back this happened to Bleauberry a while back and me and others were a bit stumped as to why he was blocked.
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