Posted by garnet71 on May 15, 2009, at 18:41:51
In reply to Re: mono/allergies/celiac/Lyme; constant fatigue - son » garnet71, posted by desolationrower on May 15, 2009, at 7:07:05
d/r - I put ALCAR in the search engine of that site, and nothing came up...what is it?
Well he doesn't need a TCA, i can get Adderall for only $26 a month. he just didn't want to pay a doctor, but he could afford it if he wanted to since he doesn't pay too many bills here. Yes, it is passivity big time!! He did go to get the Adderall to help with school a few months ago; I begged him to tell the doctor about the fatigue, telling him the possible health issues it could be related to. He came home and said he forgot. I mean if you are so tired, how could you not want to address the issue? I know he feels like sh*t everyday. He is very fogetful, but sometimes the "I forgots" are really that he didn't want to address something. He hates to ask for things, and avoids conflict. I think he does have some self-esteem issues from growing up with ADHD so severe. He got in trouble at school all the time; couldn't do what other kids could do. And a mostly absent father I think hurt his self esteem the most. Like if I tell him when he calls the doctor's ofc to make the appointment to tell them he needs to see his Doc (and not the nurse practitioner)--he likely won't do it. This happened last time. His doctor is a younger male, and very nice to talk to, and i think it would make a difference for him. My son looks up to him too.
He got ripped off by TMobile when he went to buy a new cell phone a few months ago. He came home w/it and told me they had to give him a new number (and he had the other number for years-who wants to change their number?) when he bought a new phone because they "couldn't find his number in the system" (he was a current customer at the time!). I knew right away he got ripped off, and explained to him how the salesguy just needed his commission -getting him as a new customer rather than a phone upgrade. I dealt w/TMobile before, a similar situation, and told him after his first call that didn't resolve the issue, to file a claim with the Attorney General's ofc (which is easy to do online). He wouldn't do it, and spent months trying to straighten it out with all the customer srvce people, hours on the phone. Well 4 months later, they finally quit sending the bills and I hope it's not on his credit report. TMobile is the worst! When they did something similar to me years ago, I got $500 from them after the ordeal. So he's always trying to be "nice" when dealing w/most people, and not make waves, but there's a point where it's self-damaging, as in his case. he is genuinely a nice person though, but I don't think this is healthy.
Well he's matured I think that's what I attribute to his not going out as much, but maybe only in part. He has his friends over still like twice a week, but a few months ago, they were here almost every night. They usually watch movies, play PS3, and make their own rap songs. He used to smoke weed, but I don't think he's doing that much anymore if at all. He's almost always home now, but he does go out to play golf a lot this time of year, or basketball, and some other activities. He's not playing golf as much as he used to, but says he needs a new set of clubs. He drinks once in a while at parties and occaisonally at home, and we'll have a couple glasses of wine together with dinner. He doesn't go out much, and I'm thinking he's just too tired all the time w/work and school and chronic fatigue. I am pretty convinced he's not gay, but it doesn't seem normal to not date at all at that age. He has pictures in his room of girls in bikinis and old gfs. He's masculine. He used to have a lot of female friends too, but no girls ever come over anymore. That's changed only in the past year maybe. His best friend was dating a girl recently, and they broke up-i asked him why and all..he said he didn't want to deal with a girl always wanting to know where he's at or trying to be controlling and demanding. I undestand how girls are at that age, and maybe he doesn't want the hassle. I asked him if his sex drive was ok, and he said it was. But I think at 20, it should be more overpowering.
He's not as outgoing as he used to be, though they are all laughing when they are here, recording their rap songs (they are hilarious) and finding comedy on Youtube.
Never thought about sleep apnea. And yeah, of course i told him about the situation with health care, falling through the cracks if your not assertive and proactive. Well I'm still tryin to talk him into making the appointment and letting me go with him. He's probably need me to drive him there anyway, but i don't want to fight about it in the waiting area when I try to go back with him and possibly embarass him! Thanks~
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