Posted by Racer on March 1, 2008, at 18:30:44
In reply to Re: babblers...please turn into this! - Racer, posted by your#1fan on February 29, 2008, at 23:32:14
> Racer, does this mean that i am "drug" seeking person by the frequency of 22 phone calls, and 2 faxed letters to him.
I think, if you re-read what I wrote, I suggested that your doctor could have interpreted the frequency of your contact with him as indicating impulse control issues. If I had meant that you were engaging in drug seeking behavior, I would have said exactly that. Since I didn't say that, how about we start from the assumption that it's not what I meant?
I'm pretty careful about what I write, especially when I am writing to you. I will admit that I do try to protect your feelings when I write to you, but I don't do it by saying one thing when I mean something else entirely.
I'm going to try something here, and I hope you are in a state to take it in. I'm going to go through some of the sorts of critical thinking exercises I try to use whenever I run into problems, and maybe they'll help you. Obviously, since I'm on the outside of this situation, it'll be easier for me -- my emotions aren't as engaged as yours are, so I might be able to see some aspects that you might not right now. Let's see how this goes, 'K?
First of all, something happens a lot in situations like this -- in fact, I'm in a real-life situation that has a lot in common with this, and it's happening in that situation, too. What happens is that people lose sight of the real problem -- everyone is so caught up in trying to explain why their side is the correct one, that they forget to take a step back and see if there's another option. It's really too bad when a doctor gets caught up that way, but from the sounds of it, it may be that it is what has happened here.
From what you've posted here, your side of it is that you have severe ADHD, and need stimulants to treat it.
Your doctor's side is that you can't be trusted with stimulants, and so he won't treat you for ADHD.
That's pretty simple, isn't it?
Do you notice what's missing? Two points if you notice that NEITHER ONE OF YOU has even mentioned the real problem!
The real problem right now is that you're experiencing a great deal of distress, which is impairing your ability to function, and it's not being adequately treated!
If we start from that position, there are a lot of solutions open to us that weren't there as long as you and he were locked into a struggle over ADHD and stimulants.
Now I'd like you to stop here, and let me know what you think? What I'd really like, in fact, is for you to say what you think you've understood, in your own words. I'll write a second post, with the rest of what I've got to say, but I hope you'll stop here and post back what you understood in your own words.
The point of the "restate in your own words" exercise is so that we can check in and make sure we're actually communicating. It's a good exercise, and I think it's one that you'd benefit from using when you see your doctor. Practice it here, with me, and maybe it'll help you in other areas of your life.
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