Posted by crenshaw387 on May 28, 2007, at 11:52:14
In reply to I'm leaving soon, posted by JerryPharmStudent on May 23, 2007, at 21:47:23
> It's too painful to see my friends start to treat me differently now that I've told them about my depression. Apparently I'm not worth talking to anymore. I feel like my heart has been ripped out and am in excruciating pain. Just seems like things are not eveer going to be better for me.
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> I can't hold on.....Lord knows I've tried for 15 years and my grip is slipping.
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> Who knows where I'll end up....but anything has got to be better than this emptiness.
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> Thank you all for being there for me.
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Jerry... for me a big part of my depression was that i felt as though my close friends and family didnt care about me and didnt want to be around me or associate with me. i felt like they were trying to "push my buttons" or make me feel bad.... sometimes it felt like they were picking on me so that i wouldnt come around them anymore....the reality of the issue thouogh was that they were all trying their best to be supposrtive an helpful. it was my depression that was skewing my view of what they were doing and how they were treating me.....
the other factor is, people who have never had clinical depression simply dont understand the way you feel and simply think you need to be cheered up.....
i attribute 2 things to controlling clinical depression.
1. find a doctor you feel comfortable with and give them a fighting chance to help you. that means seeing them at least monthly for at least say 6 months before deciding they cant help...
2. talk to the people who are close to you. try to educate them about depression and how you feel when they interact with you. i printed out stuff from online about depression and gave them to those really close to me.
communication is the key element.if you dont communicate neither will they...
when people try to be there for someone and it isnt appreciated or helpful they usually dont wanna try againif you dont educate them they wont understand...
let them know what is helpful and what isnt. the more they know about the problem the better they can be at solving or helping it.
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