Posted by SLS on October 1, 2006, at 16:33:45
In reply to Re: Linkadge, posted by 4WD on October 1, 2006, at 12:55:14
> He's right, though. If you can't support others, you can't expect support here.
Is that really how you feel here?
That's not good.
Can you identify what it is about the site that makes you feel that way?
Do you feel the site is too clique-ish?
> I feel like since I don't have the knowledge others do, and usually feel too bad myself to offer encouragement, I can't ask for support or information anymore.
I don't know. The only thing I can come up with is that perhaps your depression might be giving you bad signals. You know what I mean?
Give support to get support? There really isn't any kind of suggestion that this be the case here. It is not a rule. It is not a working theory. It is not a goal. It is not the current dynamic, nor has it ever been. People who ask for help here all of the time are the lucky ones.
I don't mind offering aid to people who are in long-term need. It feels good to me to be able to do it. I feel grateful to be in such a position.
I don't keep score. Marsha, I really didn't notice that you hadn't answered a single question or offered support to a single person in any way. I sort of doubt that this has occurred, but if it has, I didn't notice it. If I had, I would not have thought twice about it anyway, as I have already indicated. I think most people feel the same way I do. For those who do keep score, well, I'm sure they have their reasons.
Getting back to your depression, do you think it is coloring your perceptions and distorting your thinking? Is that why you feel perhaps unworthy of consideration? You know depression is a liar, right? Depression actually changes the way the brain processes information and thus changes the way you think and feel. It might be making you feel that Psycho-Babble is clique-ish when it really isn't. It might be making you feel that you must give support in order to be eligible to receive it. There is no such rule or operating principle. It might be making you feel that you are not smart enough to be a participant here. I have read your work. You are plenty smart enough. It might be making you feel that nobody really likes you. I do.
I think the thing people most like to do here is to help others. It is in people's nature to want to do this. You are not being a burden on the system by asking questions or looking for moral support. If anything, you are providing people with an opportunity to do what they come here to do: feel good about themselves. This is a powerful thing. It produces lots of positive energy and helps diffuse negative energy. Now, how could you want to prevent such a thing from happening? It is your duty to ask questions and look for support!
So, whats happening?
:-)
- Scott
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