Posted by flame on September 10, 2005, at 9:18:52
In reply to Re: Boyfriend adding alcohol to Mirapex and Ambien, posted by needesp on September 9, 2005, at 19:12:08
Good Morning Needesp,
Yes, we definitely know that it IS very difficult to live with our loved ones when they have depression/emotional/mental problems. But! It is because we love them that we are still there for them, for support and encouragement. If they didn't have us .. well, where would they be? I remind myself of that .. sometimes, quite often!
Something that I have not had any luck in doing with my boyfriend .. is getting him to go for a complete checkup/bloodwork .. everything possible to rule out anything that might possibly be causing his great depression. Has your son possibly done this? My boyfriend .. I have just recently found out, has a mother and three sisters who have hypothyroid conditions. I have discovered that any kind of a thyroid condition can cause a multitude of emotional/mental health problems. In my thinking, it would definitely behoove him to get this checked out. But my bf won't have anything to do with that.
Anyway, in my opinion .. I think that the psychotropic (is that the correct terminology?) meds are dispensed way too quickly by the psychologists/psychiatrists. Why are these docs not "required" to make sure that their patients do not have underlying health problems that may be causing their severe depression's etc.. BEFORE prescribing their patients antidepressants, etc?
How old is your son? Obviously .. he is still living at home with you? What is MJ?
It took me many years to "learn" to not get caught up in my bf's depression. But I have learned how and ALSO how not to take it personally. (Though, this is VERY hard at times .. I will have to admit!) Unfortunately as much as we feel what we can "do" to help them or things we say to that we think may help them, they many times can and/or DO make things worse. (Am I making sense here?)
Yes, my bf has asked me on several different occassions to accompany him to his dr. appt. He hasn't asked me since the last time when I mentioned to his doc about how much drinking he was doing? His doc was not too happy about that that and more or less threatened to stop writing him scripts if he didn't try to curb that. I figured I would get reamed out for that one .. by my bf on the way home from that appt. He never said a word. I guess he realized that I (and the doc) were totally correct. He hasn't done anything about it though .. (the drinking). I think he is feeling so low and powerless .. ? It's all kind of like a catch 22, don't you think?
The Best and Good Luck To YOU! ~Flame~
> Hi Flame,
> Sounds like you are a wonderful support person...and of cause you know what he is on and why... my post to you was almost for myself! > I have been supporting my son through his suffering for 2 years now and its not easy....I have to remind myself not to take some of the things that he does and says personally. I know I need to take more specific time out for myself...sometimes I forget and sometimes I get caught up in his suffering (i could kick myself when I do cause i know I'm making things worse for us both).
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> As a support person I sometimes get so angry at the doctors (why can't they find the answers!!!?).
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> As for the drinking....for me it was scary to watch and live with...now my son is doing MJ but although he is quieter there are still repercussions of that!!!
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> Will your boyfriend let you go with him to the doctors? Sometimes knowing what they are saying and where they are heading can give you some idea what the plan is and why!
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> anyway the others know more about what is happening
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> all the best and good luck
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