Posted by SLS on June 29, 2005, at 8:22:08
In reply to My Visit to Mental Ward...., posted by rjlockhart98 on June 28, 2005, at 21:28:14
Hi.
It is unfortunate that your mom is more of a hindrance than an asset to you in your efforts to recover and heal. I am fortunate that my parents always wanted to be positive. They didn't always understand or know what to do, but except for some moments of extreme frustrations, they have always supported me. It is possible that your mom knows no other way to be supportive. I'm sure she cares and wants to see you well, otherwise she would not have taken the time to visit you. She just doesn't know any other way to be. She is what she is.
Some people are sources of positive energy and can be of great help to aid others to move in a positive direction. Other people are toxic. They are sources of negative energy and drain others of positive energy. They hinder others from moving in a positive direction and often push them in a negative direction and promote disorder. Your mom is toxic.
So, what do you do?
You have already done it. You have done what is necessary to protect yourself. You are taking care of yourself.
I have no words of wisdom regarding the future of your relationship with your mother. It might help for you to sit down and write a letter to her. Include the fact that you love her. Tell her why you can't have her be around right now. Explain to her what hurts. Explain to her what would help. Be honest. Tell her everything. After you complete your letter, don't send it. Wait a few days. Then write another letter. Send that one if you feel comfortable with it and feel it would be helpful and not counterproductive.
- Scott
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