Posted by just so sad on February 9, 2005, at 21:56:58
In reply to Re: alcohol and meds, posted by sjb on February 9, 2005, at 14:30:01
sjb,
My SO is in denial. I have been wondering for years if I had a problem, and when I got enough courage to admit this to my SO, he kind of dismissed the idea and told me it was okay to have a glass of wine at night. I have also found my friends are hard to convince that there is something going on between me and alcohol - a relationship that they don't have with it - but they too dismiss it. I find it curious as most addiction questionaires ask "have your friends or family indicated they think you have a problem" and my immediate thought is "no, I've had to try to convince them all". For me, my drinking has been self-medication for my depression. When I admitted the shame to my doc, she had some really good advice - she asked if I had diabetes, if I would deny it and deny medication, and of course I wouldn't - and she said it's no different with depression. So my goal is to deal with the depression, then deal with the drinking, if it's still an issue. Bottom line, tell your SO over and over, until he finally sees what you are trying to show/tell him. The other night when I wept into my hubby's arms because I had downed a bottle of wine in 2 hours (at 3 in the afternoon), he finally understood the embarassment, anger, frustration, and shame, I feel for the control the alcohol has over me...it is an instant relief, although short-lived. We have never been as close in 20 years of marriage. It was huge.
I wish you strength.
Sad
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