Posted by jonh kimble on December 5, 2004, at 2:46:24
Although most every professional you talk to regarding assertiveness will tell you assertiveness is something you have to practice and learn and thats it and thats all, and I agree to a some degree. but its clear that some children are basically born unassertive, withdraw alot, are quiet, etc.. My little bro is and i apparently was. Being assertive to me feels like a crime, and is almost impossible to practice. I find benzos can help a bit, at least allow me to practice more and that hypersensitivety to rejection and that youre being an asshole for standing up for yourself are somewhat less, but then i just go back to myold self after the effects wane and think i cant do whatever unless im benzoed up. Now if you are born like this can simple therapy and personal change type messures be enough or is my momentary belief correct that you cant do alot when youre brain wont let you? (Like telling a schizophrenic that they should practice stopping to hallucenate) Maybe thinking that I cant change this passivity is greatly impeding it my natural progress? then what do I do? Maybe forcing myself to do this will desensitize me, tho in the past whenever I try this i feel much worse, and only end up feeling like I just murdered their family.
Anyway Ill stop the what ifs and hope that anyone else will have some thoughts. thanks!
Tom
poster:jonh kimble
thread:424581
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20041201/msgs/424581.html