Posted by retrojen on July 22, 2004, at 12:44:19
In reply to Counselling might help on this situation, posted by HappyGirl on July 21, 2004, at 22:08:22
You are soooo right! When he persisted in lying even though I had proof, it really shook my trust.
I'm going for counseling ASAP.We talked about it again. He denied lying, but said I was right, and that he would quit taking the pills. He told me there was no habit, he would not need to taper and at my insistence, poured the pills down the drain. The Ativan still has 1 refill, and he refuses a conference with his doctor or a med evaluation with a GOOD p-doc. He's hanging onto his pill source, so I wonder if any of it means anything.
I'm giving him 1 week to rejoin the marriage. Right now he's dead silent, sleeping on the couch and has a dark look. If he comes around, great. If not, then it's marriage counseling or I leave him. In the meantime, I'm going to my first Al-Anon meeting to get straight with myself.
I want to hold onto compassion for him. It's hard when he keeps lying and says repeatedly "this isn't harming you". So not true. I love him. I want to build a life with him, but I'll leave if he doesn't get help.
> Hi:
> In my suggestion, if this situation(finding the truth of your husband's mental issues and etc.) is very hard to encounter, then some counselling might help.
> Because, in reading your 'two' posts, you started to NOT able to 'trust' your husband's stories. In marrige, 'TRUST' is one of most important factors to preserve 'LOVE.'
>
> GOOD LUCK!!!
> H.G.
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