Posted by sl on June 3, 2004, at 10:03:42
In reply to Re: please be civil » sl, posted by Dr. Bob on June 1, 2004, at 23:43:13
> post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down.
> Sharing something about your own issues and their possible role in your reaction might be an interesting exercise -- and might help others respond to you supportively.
Actually _I_ am the one who feels put down.
It's a major pet peeve to me and I am very careful not to do it to others.Q: "Can you help me with X problem with Y software?" (reasonable question)
A: "Oh you don't really want that, here's how to set up Z software instead," (answer implying the asker hasn't researched options and is need of education and redirection)Q: "Can you give me info about X med?" (reasonable question)
A: "Oh that's a bad idea [cuz I believe so] and you should try Y-med and/or Z-med." (answer implying asker hasn't done the reseach and hasn't exhausted all possible options and is in need of pushing)
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