Posted by shadows721 on February 13, 2004, at 20:53:27
In reply to psycological factors in depression, posted by francesco on February 13, 2004, at 18:25:10
I thought of some questions to consider:
1) Would you feel happier without the person in your life?
2) Do you take your meds correctly when you and this person have problems?
3) Are you feeling up and down only around this person?
Sometimes, we project that our depression is due to someone or something. The only way to find out is to be rid of that someone or something. It lets you see if the depression is related to that or it is internal. Personally, I use to project that my depression was due to my job or a boss. When I took a leave of absence from my job, my depression actually worsened. The boss and the job was only a distraction from dealing with my real depression.
Sometimes, we actually choose to make poor decisions when we are depressed. Having someone who is not there for you is not a really good choice. Perhaps, due to your depression, you actually feel you deserve someone who cannot be there for you. Depression causes isolation.
It sounds to me that you would like to go into denial about how much your depression is affecting your life and relationships. Were you bipolar before this relationship? If this relationship is so up and down, what is it due to you are the other person? Is that person reacting to you or the other way around?
Also, you may want to look into books about co-dependency. Your feelings should not revolve around another person. They should revolve in the things that can meet your needs. This person really doesn't sound like she is really there for you. You deserve better than that, but you have to believe you do.
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