Posted by galkeepinon on September 13, 2003, at 16:36:09
In reply to Re: Please advice/feedback/guidance » galkeepinon, posted by madwand on September 12, 2003, at 11:34:34
Hey there, thank you so much for responding to my post. Good question..by whose standards have I failed~the world's? my mom's? I have to figure that out.
At times yes, I do buy into this disease as a fault. I guess it's because this depression started when I was about 22 in 1992, after a break up with my fiance and I and when my father got into drugs and alcohol. I just got really depressed. Plus, I had no idea what I *wanted to do with my life* I gained weight, and I've just never been able to get back to my old self so to speak.
Thank you for reminding me of treating this illness like any other illness~you're right again. I would never condemn a person with cancer, and plead with them not to beat themselves up over having it. I totally hear you!
A (hug) to you for being so kind, thank you so much for your thoughtfulness and insight.
Have a great weekend!
> By whose standards have you failed? You have contributed a heck of a lot to this group, and that certainly extends to a lot of "lurkers" whom you probably don't even know about.
> I wonder something (my apologies if this is out of line). Intellectually you know that depression is a disease, but it sounds like at some gut level you buy into it as some kind of "fault". If you had cancer and had a relapse you might fuss and fume at it interfering with your life (I think we all would), but you wouldn't beat yourself up over it would you?
> In other words, just a gentle reminder that you have an *illness* and sometimes it takes time and patience to get over the bumps. It is clear to me just from what I have seen on this board what a compassionate, loving person you are, and if you were standing in front of me I would give you a big hug right now. You have nothing to feel guilty about.
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