Posted by viridis on January 4, 2003, at 12:21:21
In reply to Re: BENZODIAZEPINES ARE NOT THE ANSWER, posted by ZeeZee on January 4, 2003, at 10:15:40
Hi ZeeZee,
I don't disagree with most of what you say, and couldn't count all the times people have said things to me like "stop stressing so much", "think positive", "just do something to take your mind off it and you'll cheer up" etc. etc etc. Or recommended some book that would magically change my outlook on life. Or some vitamin, or exercise ... you know the routine.
And then you take a series of meds that don't help and/or make you feel worse, and the doctors act like it's your fault, don't believe you're really having side effects, or say you need therapy. But the therapy doesn't really help either.
So finally you find some drug or combo that actually does work, and then well-meaning people say "you don't need pills to be happy".
It's incredibly frustrating, and yes, I've definitely been there. I doubt I'd be able to function consistently without the right meds, and it's taken years for me to realize and accept this.
My point was that if you do get stabilized with appropriate medication, things don't have to just sort of stop there. You can allow yourself to do things that weren't possible before, you can try things that you were afraid to try before, and so on. And maybe some of the exercise, lifestyle changes, etc. will work in conjunction with your meds to help keep you stable and happy.
I guess that's what I took from Syringalet's message, and it seemed pretty positive to me. But I completely understand your frustration, and I agree that blaming yourself for not being able to live without medication, or letting other people blame you, is futile and damaging.
I'm glad to hear that you've finally found meds that work and (I assume) a doctor who understands your situation.
All the best,
Viridis
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