Posted by jannbeau on November 25, 2002, at 12:12:23
In reply to Re: I am scared of this medicine, HELP ME!, posted by dde on November 22, 2002, at 22:25:58
> Hi, DDE, I can feel your pain in this post. I wish that I knew how to help you through it, but I think you are doing the very best you can with it. I'd like to say to Zinya that your words seem very wise, so perhaps she can go with what you suggest for the moment as she tries to sort out the differences between grieving and depression. Zinya, I have to think about the questions you asked me in response to my earlier post re pharmacokinetics of Effexor and other ADs.
Jannbeau
First, my heartfelt condolences.
> Second, give yourself time to grieve. I have also lost a loved one, but to depression and Effexor XR. Please do not put a time limit on your grief or try to mask it with medication. It would be my opinion that trying to mask the pain, or the other effects such as no energy and loss of feeling, will only prolong the effects, as I have been told that once you come off the medication the feelings are still there and still have to be felt to get past them. After the death of my son in August, I took some Paxil for the anxiety. I can tell you that I became totally numb to any emotion, and that once I stopped taking it, I was feeling again, sometimes to an extreme, but at least I know it will come and go....not so with the medication....all I felt with it was NOTHING. Allow yourself all the emotion. It is natural and normal. Pain, Guilt, Anger (and this is the worst phase for me, so far, as when I am angry I cry, then become frustrated and cry more), will eventually turn to acceptance and being able to move on. Try to find a group for support. I have had to do that. I try to be kind with myself. The doctors keep trying to get me to take more medication as I have a heart condition and they are afraid of the stress of grief on my heart. I function at work, but on my off days, I find little to get out of bed for....some days I just stay there and FEEL.
> I am told by our grief counselor that grieving has no time limit and takes different routes for everyone. I truly believe it is so.
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> I hope you will give yourself time: time to feel and time to heal. If the healing doesn't start, if you aren't moving through the emotions, THEN look for the least offensive drug and listen to your body. I will keep you in my prayers. de
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