Posted by SassyMom33 on May 29, 2002, at 3:06:18
In reply to Re: suicidalness and losing hope, posted by XaosSurfer on May 28, 2002, at 16:53:09
Hi, I know that this may sound easy for me to say...being on the outside looking in...but it comes from experience. That is, "Things will get better. Give this woman her space." I separated from my husband August of 2001. I just needed time away from him...to re-evaluate me, my life, our relationship. BUT, he wouldn't let me have this. I am not blaming him, but I really needed time away!
He called me all the time I was gone. He sent flowers. He brought me gifts. While I knew HE thought he was doing the right thing...trying to "win" me back...really it was pushing me away even further. Then he would call my friends...begging them to talk to me...he would write them...begging them to talk to me...and that was it. I felt like he had totally violated my privacy.
I am ONLY sharing this with you because that may be what she needs. Time away to figure out what to do...you need to use the time equally as wisely. Okay? Let her be...I don't pretend to know her, but while you probably have the best of intentions...it could actually end up having the opposite reaction from her.
Hang in there...
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