Posted by dove on March 26, 2002, at 17:30:20
In reply to Re: SSRIs and Paraphilias » Ponder, posted by Zo on March 26, 2002, at 16:30:22
I would like to add my two cents regarding pursuing a relationship with a recovering exhibitionist/misdemeanor sex offender.
I've also been exposed to a number of "flashers" and other oddities during my lifetime, and have found that many have an extreme view of their own sexuality. Either it's high-throttle or no throttle, and they seem unable to marry the two into a healthier balance.
My advice, which easier 'said' from way over here than 'done' way over there, is to be cautious and vigilant for warning signs that this relationship is not going to work out. It will break your heart if you go too deep and can't let go, I know, I've been there, and in many ways, am still there!
Some red lights would include his own unfulfillment while being very attentive to you. Even though SSRI's lower sexual desire and/or ability, there should still be an element of desire and intimacy that expresses his desire for you. Not for you to be physically fulfilled, but his desire to be *with* you, to be part of you. Any feelings that he is detached, or more of an onlooker than an active participant is very big warning sign, at least in my experience.
Hope it works out better than the statistics, truly!
dove
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