Posted by Wendy B. on June 20, 2001, at 18:56:31
In reply to Re: ADs and love » Joe Schmoe, posted by kid_A on June 20, 2001, at 12:34:20
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> I'm going to agree w/ Dana on this one. I am in a very similar situation that you are in, except my object of affection just happens to be my best friends girlfriend...
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> It doesnt really matter who it is or what, I had similar paterns with other girls... Things were broken inside of me that did not let me progress beyond the loss. Any loss. I could not come to grips w/ the facts of a situation, and it seemed like I couldnt go on...
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> The one important thing, and my crush who is actually a good friend, convinced me of this, is to seek some form of councelling. I dont think that just taking a pill is going to solve all of our problems... It can be tremendously helpfull if you can find someone to talk to who understands how you feel and can give you some insite as to how you can learn to grow as a person...
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> I mean thats what this is all about, right? Hopefully some of us out there grow as individuals so that we can look at ourselves in a new aspect and see starlight, not a black hole.
Hi there Kid_A and others,Ugh, your best friend's girlfriend. What could be more difficult? When I have been in situations like this, I always get other people/friends/family telling me to "find a new group of friends," which I find SO un-helpful... Why do I expect them to understand? I'd much rather go to the PsyBabble Boards, and get some real empathy, from the "friends" I've never met, but who really do understand.
Anyway, I hope what I was saying about trying the Serzone together with the Paxil wasn't taken in the wrong way. I do think that what EricJ and I are saying is that the meds are definitely helpful, they break the cycle of those brain patterns & synapses sparking off in the same old ways they always did. And they can, if you're lucky, bring some relief, as Joe has found.
But I didn't mean that one should just take meds. I am a firm believer in finding the kind of therapist who understands, and who has empathy, and who can help you break out of repetitive patterns. Yeah, that IS what it's all about. You have to talk it out, it doesn't just disappear by itself.
As for what Eric says: yes, I have days where I look at the pill bottles, and try to remember if I took 2nd doses of the wellbutrin or the neurontin, and sometimes I forget because forgetfulness or short-term memory loss seems to be a problem lately. And I think, shit, do I really have to take these >for the rest of my life< ??? It's kind of mind-bending, you know? But I remind myself of the insulin/diabetes analogy, too, or the person with high blood pressure who has to take meds for that. What's the diff? Really. There is no difference. It's just the stigma of being labeled crazy, or depressed, or whatever.
So I take the meds, and I resign myself to it. But I also thank god that there are drugs that can help me feel so much better, and know it's the right thing.Signing off for now,
Wendy
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