Posted by dark sally on November 6, 2000, at 12:42:41
In reply to self-destructive friend--NEED HELP!!, posted by lala on November 6, 2000, at 9:13:17
hi lala
i wanted to give you a mini suggestion in regards
to your friend, who i feel is reaching out to you
and would benefit from your help.self destructive behavior is rarely suicidal and
only temporarily soothing. unlike her, i am not
manic depressive, however i am a cutter and burner.
i do not think that her behavior makes her any less
qualified as a mother or person. however, it may
be a good idea to tell her mother, who may be able
to persuade her to find a therapist who has dealt
with this issue. many self destructive persons have
been turned away from disgusted therapists and i
wonder if your friend is fearful of this rejection.there are self help books for cutters, but i really
think your non-judgmental non-condescending support
would be most appreciated. because she told you
about her cuts, she probably trusts you, and the
worst reaction in my experience is someone turning
away from you.also, you may want to read a book on cutting so you
can understand more where she is coming from.i very much value your concern and love for your
friend, but don't panic. this is rarely a life-
threatening issue.
poster:dark sally
thread:48252
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