Re: Civility and fairness

Posted by Dr. Bob on August 15, 2000, at 9:31:49

In reply to Re: Civility and fairness, posted by Kath on August 15, 2000, at 8:30:16

> I have found that talking about our OWN FEELINGS is far less inflammatory than using adjectives. Also avoiding "you" statements, "he" statements, "she" statements in airing "beefs"...
>
> Caution: This method can be manipulated..."I feel as if you're being abusive" But the secret is, the "I feel" needs to have the EMOTION the person is feeling.
I tried suggesting this myself before:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20000603/msgs/35912.html
And it was in fact "manipulated":
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20000603/msgs/35923.html
But if at first you don't succeed... :-)
Bob

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